Are you ready for a new relationship? Before jumping back into the dating game check out the 6 signs that show you, you're good to go.
Sign #1: You’re proud of your baggage and everything that comes along with it
Yes, you have baggage and yes, you’re proud of what you’ve worked hard to create. Your children, pets, responsibilities. If your baggage is not for him you’re happy to send him love and move on to someone who would be honored to be a part of your beautiful, little bundle. Your motto is - Date me, date my family…. you lucky man!
Sign #2: You have your own hobbies and passions
You enjoy the world around you and what it has to offer. As well as your adorable children you have one or two main drives in life that have nothing to do with meeting “the one”. Your passions are a priority and you make time to enjoy life.
Sign #3: You are willing to be flexible and compromise
You are an independent woman but have made sure there is space in your life for someone new to enter into it. You are open to trying new things and not too stuck in your ways. You’re ready for some new challenges, to watch some boring movies, hear some tiresome stories and sometimes have to miss that gym class that you love so much because you know the give and take will create a magical, beautiful, committed relationship where you will both thrive on making each other happy.
Sign #4: You are confident in who you are and what you want (and will not settle for less)
You know what you don’t like but more to the point you know what you do like, not just in what you want from a man but what you want from yourself and from the life you’re living. You have your deal breakers and will not settle for anything less. You have spent some time on your own learning about yourself, trusting your gut feeling and have figured out that you actually quite like yourself.
Sign #5: You know that you don’t need him in your life
You know that romance is only the icing on the cake of your life, it's not the whole cake. You are ready for that perfect guy (well perfect for you) but you would be perfectly fine without him. You know that the only person who can ‘save’ you is yourself. No one out there can fulfill your every physical and emotional need. The only person who can truly ever be there for you fully is YOU!
Sign #6: You’ve released any attachment or anger from past relationships
None of this… “Of cause I’m totally over my ex, I hate him!” – you know that if you still feel intense anger (or intense love) toward him then you’re not over it yet. Of cause some things people do are unforgivable but you know that you need to let it go of it first before you can move forward.
So is this you, are you ready?
What if while reading through these signs you realized just how far away you are from being ready... Be easy on yourself and give yourself time. Do a small something every day to work on yourself, to get closer.
Here are some ideas on what you can do. Baby steps are the key…
Sign #1: You’re proud of your baggage and everything that comes along with it
Every day write down 3 blessings “he” would receive when he gets involved with your family and your everyday life.
Sign #2: You have your own hobbies and passions
Start saying yes to invitations and if it sucks move onto the next thing. Do more family activities, have some girls nights in, join a tennis club, join the local gym, go to pottery classes, and when you’re there dig in - introduce yourself to new people. I know this can be difficult for some people but just show up, push yourself a little and get yourself out there.
Sign #3: You are willing to be flexible and compromise
Practice now - do something unusual, change up your schedule a little and make some different choices.
Sign #4: You are confident in who you are and what you want (and will not settle for less)
Get to know yourself… ponder on these questions regularly…
What are your core values?
What do you know about your body?
What do you love?
Define yourself.
What do you hate?
Where are you unwilling to compromise?
What are your dreams?
Sign #5: You know that you don’t need ‘him’ in your life
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Sign #6: You’ve released any attachment or anger from past relationships
Find your own personalized affirmation
The affirmation guidelines:
• Make it personal to you
• Put it in the present tense (as if you already feel it)
• Keep it simple
• Use a positive phrase such as: “I am an independent woman” rather than: “I am not depending on anyone for my happiness”
• Feel the affirmation with passion when you say it out loud
Example affirmations:
• I am a strong, confident woman, who is in control of her own destiny
• I let go of the past and enjoy each present moment
• I make my own choices and I am free to navigate my own future
Write your affirmation down on a post-it and stick it on your bathroom mirror, in your car, in your pocket - wherever you are likely to see it - say it out loud, with passion whenever you see it and watch all the signs of being ready for a new relationship effortlessly come to form in your life.
You have an amazing love life ahead of you, welcome it into your life!